Don’t expect others to make your life better.
Does it occur to you that in any conversation - be it face to face or through written note or virtual - the best way to communicate with somebody is when they are of the same vibrational level?
Of course it may not be the same for everybody but it does play an important part in sustaining the session. A conversation can be beautiful and full of unlimited potentials when there is a common vibration. Imagine, you are interested in spirituality and someone keeps talking about sex or politics. Or when you are seeking for some motivational guidance and you keep getting another person to talk about food.
Fundamentally, when there is a raised common vibration, our spirits are lifted. Our general being becomes expansive, constructive, affirming and progressive. It increases the strength of our soul, health and balance of our physical, emotional, mental and spiritual bodies.
Conversely, anything that we do that leads to a low and conflicting vibration, like anger, sorrow, guilt, hatred, despair, fear, jealousy and frustration, will not benefit anybody.
While we are all the same human beings with the same potential to be a good human being and we are alike and equal underneath all the fuss and idiosyncrasies, each of us has different approaches and perspective in life. We have the same human nature, sharing the same common humanity and that we have human thoughts and human feelings.
The whole of life, yours and mine, from the moment that we are born to the moment we die is a process of learning. This makes us to walk on the same path towards the same end, death. We all live with the objective of being happy, each walks a different path to fill the meaning and purpose of life. Our journeys are all different and yet the same.
We all take different paths, different journeys, in life. But, no matter we go and no matter the hazards one goes through, we meet at the same crossroads and to the same end. The path of life is said to be grouped in three different routes towards happiness. First, there is the Pleasant Life that consists of having as many pleasures as possible and having the skills to amplify the pleasures.
Second, it is the Good Life that desires in knowing what our strengths are then re-crafting our work, love, friendship, leisure and parenting to use those strengths to have more flow in life. The third is the Meaningful Life which consists of using our strengths in the service of something that we believe is larger than we are.
One thing though, we are all the same from the spirituality aspect - that we strive for love, peace and joy - yet we are different when it comes to the physical, emotional and mental genetic programming. Each of us is unique and our life experiences are different even though we may have the same mind and the same human emotional reactions.
It is our personality that sets us apart. It is our attitude and behaviour that shape the differences between us. Should I apply the 20-80 or 80-20 rule here, it is what we are that account and ultimately shaping for our social cohesion. It is 20 percent of our personality that form the 80 percent of our social outputs. That generate for our overall happiness and satisfaction. Or generate for our overall failures.
[For an interesting understanding of this 20-80 or 80-20 principle, read 'Living the 80/20 Way' by Richard Koch]
The difference between us - between individuals, mainly starts when we are young. When our parents, grand-parents, older siblings and all the teachers and environment contribute to shape for our personality today. For our attitudes and all of our behaviours. They are the 20 percent who shape for our personality and induce psychological attitudes and behaviours that make us to be what we are today.
We can't never expect others to make our life better. Be shameful should we allow ourselves to think that others owe us a life. Truth is, no one owes us - you and me, anything.
We are not entitled to a free ride at work, at home, in school, on the playing field or whatever our playing field may be. We are now here, by being born, to take charge and ownership of our being. Other than that, nobody owes us a shit. Not money, not a free education, not compliments and not even the simple acknowledgement of our presence is owed to us.
But hey, it does not mean that circumstances will not change. Though we may not be able to control every single thing that comes to greet us in our life, we can control how we choose to respond to it. It is not the things that happen to us but rather how we choose to respond to happenings and external circumstances that ultimately shape our so-called 'destiny', the outcome.
The reality - we have the same opportunity, as everyone else, to discover for all the important things. The important things are the things that we enjoy doing, the company that we keep, the things that we might be able to accomplish.
The only thing that we can expect, that we owe it to ourselves, is for us to take 100 percent responsibility for our life. All the responses we created out from an event determine the outcome. It is just the Universal Law of Polarity. For every outside, there is an inside. For every crisis, there is an opportunity. Everything that has a beginning has an end.
Bottomline, the difference between us has to do with our perspective towards life. Then again, life in itself is meaningless. It is how we choose to give meaning to life that shapes its beauty, its purpose and its divinity. It is the meaning that we choose to give that really matters.
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